- Do you only work with women?
- Are you a career coach?
- What if I don’t have my time of birth?
- What typically happens during coaching sessions?
- Why can’t I just have one or two sessions?
- What qualifies you to do this work?
- I live on the other side of the world. Can I still work with you?
- What is an astrology chart and why is it important?
- Do you predict the future with astrology?
- How is coaching different from therapy/counselling?
- What’s coaching about?
Do you only work with women?
No, but interestingly, most of my clients are women and most of them are in transition of some sort.
Often this has to do with their careers or in some cases, changing careers/gears but not always.
A high percentage of my current clients are in the midst of their ‘mid-life crisis’ transits and so they’re struggling to make sense of events that seem out of their control. Others are struggling to make decisions at what seems to be crossroads in the fog.
Such challenging times always present real opportunities for change primarily because the universe is very specifically pointing out to you where you’ve been going wrong.Back to Index
Are you a career coach?
Yes & No.
A major distinction between executive coaching and my approach is that the later concentrates on the totality of one’s experience while the former focuses solely on work. Another distinction is that with executive coaching, the goals are usually set by the employer, who is, after all, paying the bill. Sometimes those goals are in sync with those of the individual coachee but often enough, they aren’t. This can lead to dilemmas, conflicts of interest, and poor decisions.
Thus I am not an executive coaching although I remain dedicated to helping everyone reach his or her potential, career-wise or otherwise.
Sometimes requires helping you to change your career path and sometimes it means helping you to progress on your current one.
Either way, I work only for one client and that client is you, not your employer.
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What if I don’t have my time of birth?
The planets are in constant motion and that means that the energies surrounding your time of birth are dependent on an accurate birth time. The more accurate your birth time, the better the results astrologically. Even a generalised idea of whether it was morning, noon, or night helps helps but if push comes to shove, we’ll improvise.
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What typically happens during coaching sessions?
During our coaching sessions, we’ll share conversations structured to help you come to grips with what you really want and to devise a workable strategy on how to get it.
I have many techniques (including visualisations) in my tool chest from which to choose and I’m also pretty good at improvising new ones. These sessions are designed for you to come up with your own answers. I’m there to motivate, encourage, and keep you on track but never to lead or to advise.
Most of what we do will be astrologically inspired and in keeping with your personal chart, transits, and progressions. But it’s up to you as to how much astrology we actually discuss. Some people want more and some people want less and then some, want none at all. This is not an astrology reading. I cannot (and would not want to) predict your future.
One thing of which you can be certain is that there will be some twists and turns along the way.
For example, you might start out believing that you wanted a new job and that coaching should help you in that transition. Imagine your surprise when you conclude that what you really wanted was more control over your life and that can be accomplished in your present position. But that isn’t going to be as easy as it might sound because you’ve always had trouble saying no to people. No wonder you feel out of control; in reality, others are managing your schedule. I can see from your chart that ‘establishing boundaries’ probably is difficult for you and that you’re currently having a planetary transit that is bringing this to the fore. I can also see that you have natural strengths that you can enlist to help set boundaries but although I can help you to identify them, I can’t tell you whether to use them.
Next, we will explore things that you’ve tried in the past to deal with your issue and evaluate why they didn’t work as you’d planned. Then, together, we will identify and evaluate potential new solutions and how best you might employ them.
But we don’t stop there because if we did, the chances of you making progress as planned are not statistically good.
So we’ll practice your new strategies and discuss in advance how you’ll address the inevitable kick back from others who will be surprised that you’ve changed. Now, it’s up to you to go out and be the ‘new you’ in the real world but don’t worry, I’ve got your back. When as a kid you first learned to ride a bicycle, I’m guessing you probably had training wheels for awhile and so consider me as your training wheels for awhile.Back to Index
Why can’t I just have one or two sessions?
Most clients don’t have a clear idea of what they want or need when they first come to coaching. Usually all they do know is that something isn’t working in their lives and that’s it’s making them unhappy.
It often takes a session or two to just get to the crux of the problem and then at least another one to craft the best strategy on how to deal with it.
‘Good things come in threes.’ – Proverb
According to numerology and number symbolism, the number three is one of healing and integration, of embracing synthesis.
Goldilocks (of The Three Bears) had to try all the three bowls of porridge before finding the one that was ‘just right’. If she hadn’t done, there would have been no story.
Consider coaching a time to explore the possible twists and turns that your story might take and then having the luxury of choosing the one that suits you.Back to Index
What qualifies you to do this work?
- I have an Undergraduate Certificate in Coaching Awarded by the University of Cambridge. The programme has Association for Coaching accredited coach training status (ACTS).
- I have also completed a six-month qualification course with David Drake on his special brand of evidence-based coaching, Narrative Coaching. This provides a flexible and robust methodology enabling you to develop in real time and achieve real results without a dependency on goal-setting, which relies on will-power alone to succeed. I am proud to announce that I am a Narrative Coach ™ Enhanced Practitioner.
- I am a Member of the International Association for Coaching and bound by their standards.
- After three years of study, I earned a Diploma from Liz Greene’s London-based Centre for Psychological Astrology in 2003.
- I have a BS in Psychology from the State University of New York.
- In business, I’ve worked as international tax lawyer (Massachusetts Bar) for more than 30 years in three different countries, most of that time spent as a Senior Manager with the Big-4 accounting firm, Ernst & Young.
- I take continuing education very seriously. Not only does it provide a continually evolving perspective, but it ensures that my knowledge and skills are up to date. For the academic year 2018-2019, I am considering short courses at the University of Oxford in Psychodynamic Counselling, Existential Therapy, and Psychology for Happiness and, for purely for personal interest, I’ve just booked a 10 week course at Oxford, Investigating the Elizabethans. I’ll be blogging about that at archetypalassets.com.
I live on the other side of the world. Can I still work with you?
Most of my coaching sessions are by SKYPE or WEBEX anyway and that works very well.
As to concerns about cultural differences, we can discuss that in our initial free ‘meet and greet’ session.
As a coach, it’s my responsibility to take such considerations into account and to always be on guard to ensure such differences are not negatively impacting our work together.Back to Index
What is an astrology chart and why is it important?
‘We are born at a given moment, in a given place, and like vintage years of wine, we have the qualities of the year and of the season of which we are born. Astrology does not lay claim to anything more.’
– Carl Jung
Your natal chart is a cosmic road map representing your potential at your moment of birth.
You’re the material manifestation of that moment and the planetary energies of that moment imprint on your environment, personalty, and life path. By exploring your natal chart, you can come to grips with your strengths and weaknesses so as to achieve your goals in a way that is natural and authentic.
You could achieve the same thing through traditional coaching and/or counselling but then having that road map to follow is likely to speed things along.
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Do you predict the future with astrology?
No. Whilst astrology maps out the realms of possibility, only you decide what to make of it.
What astrology is, however, excellent at is strategic planning.
Just as a farmer is unlikely to have much luck harvesting his crops in mid-winter, it’s unlikely you’ll get the results you want at the wrong time.
Sometimes you can make things happen with the snap of a finger but other times no matter what you do, nothing budges.
Sometimes, you hang on tooth and nail to something that’s slipping from your grasp only to have it swept away from you by circumstances beyond your control. In hindsight, you could have done yourself a big favour by letting go gracefully.
If only you’d known?
To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8).
Honour this, and get results.Back to Index
How is coaching different from therapy/counselling?
According to Hetty Einzig, executive coach, trainer, and leadership facilitator, one of the key distinctions between counselling and coaching is that the former pathologizes, while the later does not.
In other words, therapy/counselling is designed to address the needs of those suffering from diagnosable conditions such as personality disorders, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, or other mood disorders.
Realistically, however, it can be difficult determining whether someone is just sad or whether they’re depressed. This is one of the reasons why we have an initial consultation before deciding to work together. It’s your job to be honest about your situation. It’s my job to ask the question ‘can my coaching help’.
Unlike counselling/therapy, coaching focuses on the future rather than the past although most coaches acknowledge that past experiences are a valuable source of information for making future decisions.
Can coaching and therapy work together?
Absolutely. As one of my clients who is also in therapy/counselling put it, her therapist leads her during the sessions but, as her coach, I don’t. Counselling allowed her to address her past and put problems behind her whilst coaching made her think in new and different ways about how to construct her future.Back to Index
What’s coaching about?
Some say that coaching is about optimising performance. This, of course, presumes that there’s something about you that’s ‘broken’ and needs fixing. But that’s a rather depressing thought isn’t it? The good news is that’s not what I believe coaching is about and I hope that neither do you.
Instead, I wholeheartedly advocate the holistic view espoused by existentialist Ernesto Spinelli, who believes that coaching should help you to make strategic choices to live more ‘effectively’. This means that your choices are made in accord with that which defines you rather than in line with the customs and norms as defined by others.
Like the existentialists, I believe that you – my client – remain always alive with possibility and as a psychological astrologer, I know that your natal chart maps these possibilities. I also know there are times when you need a little extra help finding the key to unlock your possibilities.
Coaching is not about quick fixes or even getting ahead of the game, although the latter is often a welcome side effect of making positive, strategic change.
Coaching is about creating a safe space in which you feel that you can be heard, a space for you to explore your strengths and weaknesses as well what matters to you the most. After that, the choices come naturally – so trust in the process and most importantly, trust in yourself. You already have everything you need to do this and coaching is process for unlocking it.Back to Index