Charmingly Committed

In Gemini, Venus was charmed with conversation. Now she’s in Cancer she’s charmed with commitment.

Astrologically, Venus symbolises how we attract and seduce others, but do you need to attract or seduce someone who is already by your side? With Venus in Cancer, the net that reels in the beloved is alternatively tightened and loosened. This is the dance of love and one at which Venus in Cancer excels.

Some of her favourite ways to tighten her net is through typical Cancerian interests like cooking.

The trick with dealing with energy  is to avoid going over the top. When the net is pulled too tight, the natives will start to get restless, right? One of the best ways to manage this is through increased self-awareness. It’s all about recognising when you’re experiencing an emotion or feeling, putting a label on it, and then choosing how best to deal with it to ensure the best interests of all involved.

Try this right now:

Think of a situation where you had a strong emotional reaction to something. Now, work out what that emotion was and how in impacted both your thoughts and behaviour. Will you do the same again or instead, actively work to change your response in the future?

Busy Bee

In Taurus, Venus was charmed by simplicity. Now she’s in Gemini, she’s charmed with conversation.

Up and down the airwaves, Venus keeps her stories coming. Equally she’s enthralled to hear your stories, especially if they’re light and easy and, of course, well-told and exciting. Venus in Gemini doesn’t much care if the stories she tells or hears are true, at least true in the sense of verification. That is not the point.

The point is circulation, pollination, and connection. 

Like a bee to the flower, Venus in Gemini is drawn into interchange of all sorts and she’s especially fond of gossip.

Whether her interest is more than a passing fancy depends on the other energies around and from 20th of June until the end of the month (when Venus flirts with Jupiter by opposition), you may be tempted to burn the candle of romance at both ends. The energy will be both big-hearted and warm but trying to be all things to all people is, as we all know, not possible – at least not for long.

  • What are the possibilities, here?
  • Can you say more?
  • If it were up to you, how would it work out?

Flowers & Bees

When Venus was in Aires, you could expect your love life to heat up. 

But now, Venus has moved into Taurus, and the energy surrounding those who are romantically inclined is much different. 

Venus is all about seduction and charm, as well as beauty and grace. The secret of real charm is that you can’t charm someone else if you’re not yourself charmed by an idea, place, or person.


Go to your fields and your garden, and you shall learn that it is the pleasure of the bee to gather honey of the flower, But it is also the pleasure of the flower to yield its honey to the bee, For to the bee a flower is a fountain of life, And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love, And to both, bee and flower, the giving and receiving of pleasure a need and an ecstasy.

The Prophet – Kahlil Gibran (on Pleasure)

In Taurus, Venus is charmed by simplicity.

  • Are you happy?
  • When is good, good enough?
  • What is ‘perfect’ about this?

Warrior Queen

When Venus was in Pisces (from end of March until now), you might have expected your beloved to be confused and/or disillusioned.

Now, with Venus in Aries, you can expect your love life to heat up but it might not turn out quite as you’ve planned.

This is the time of the warrior queen.

Warrior Queen

It’s not so much that during this time love will wither and die – indeed probably the opposite is true.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.

Love possesses not nor would it be possessed:

For love is sufficient unto love.

Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

Venus in Aries is selfish by nature and in such a hurry to gratify her desires that her relationships are more than likely to be – well, not to put too fine a point on it – superficial. 

  • Exciting yes.
  • Long-lived, probably not. 

If you’re just on the look-out for a hot date, now’s the time.

But if you’re looking for a mutually satisfying relationship that will last ‘until death do you part’, then wait until Venus moves into Taurus in mid-May.

  • What do you want from this situation and why?
  • What is ‘good enough’ for right now?
  • Do you believe what you’ve just said?


All these things shall love do unto you that you many know the secret of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.

Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

Venus is now in Pisces for the next month. 

When she was in Aquarius, you were on notice that your beloved might (temporarily) give you the cold shoulder.

Now, you can expect him or her to be confused. This is because Pisces has two planetary rulers, Neptune and Jupiter, and together, this pair is the signature of the visionary who enjoys a foolhardy naivety about life. 


The good news, and there always will be with Venus in Pisces because this is where she is exalted (i.e. doing well, indeed, thanks very much), is that however much disillusionment and disappointment comes in her wake, any resultant bitterness or resentment won’t last for long.

  • How do you suppose it will all work out?
  • What are the chances of success?
  • How do you suppose you can find out more about it?

Cold Fish

Venus, Goddess of Love, has now moved into Aquarius where she remains until the end of this month. When she was in Sagittarius, relationships were all smiles and giggles but when she shifted into Capricorn, well, diamonds were a girl’s best friend. 

Now the energy has changed again.

Although Capricorn and Aquarius share the same planetary ruler, Saturn, these two zodiac signs most certainly are not the same. 

  • Capricorn may be materialistic and ambitious.
  • Aquarius is a bit of a cold fish.

Venus in Aquarius

The good news is that during this time, you can expect relationships to be friendlier, more collegiate, even quirky. They will definitely be more detached. So, don’t be alarmed if your partner asks for some space. You both will benefit from some quality time out.

The primary danger comes if either of you decide that you ‘know best’ how the other should behave. Aquarius has a tendency toward black and white thinking and doesn’t care in the least about being diplomatic. If you’re not careful, you could be headed for an unpleasant clash.

  • Where is this going?
  • What assumptions are being made?
  • Who decides?

Diamonds are a girl’s best friend, right?

Venus in Capricorn – Diamonds are a girl’s best friend

Whilst Venus was in Sagittarius, it was all smiles and giggles. Now things will start to get serious when on 3 February, Venus moves into Capricorn.

For the next few weeks, partnerships and important relationships of every kind will be characterised by self-control, presence of mind, and a sense of duty and responsibility. Loyalty is back in style.

This has great potential for reward, however, especially on the 18-19th of February.

Think diamonds?

A bit later in the month, around 23-24th February, things may get a bit intense (Venus conjoins Pluto). Resist the temptation to push emotional buttons and instigate power plays. If you do, the situation could get uglier than ever you could have imagined. Likewise, do not respond in like kind if you’re on the receiving end of this.

Instead, do yourself a favour and take a deep breath, keep your head down and mouth shut.

On 2nd of March, when Venus shifts into Aquarius, you can expect some breathing space. 

Having Fun

On 6 January, Venus leaves Scorpio for Sagittarius where she will remain until the beginning of February.

If during the last couple of months, your relationships seemed too hot to handle, you can expect the heavy mood to lift.

Now is the time to have some fun – smiles, giggles, jokes, and flirtation.



Yet, if you’re thinking of running away with your fabulous new love, you may want to think again. Sagittarius is not known for staying power. Indeed, with Venus in Sagittarius the name of the game is when the going gets rough, lovers get going. Nothing personal. That’s just the way that it is.

The key to enjoying this period is to remember that just right now, commitment is definitely not the ‘done thing’.

That will come later when Venus moves in Capricorn.

  • What do you really want in this situation?
  • How does this situation make you feel?
  • What does fun mean to you?



Trust no one

  • Really?

  • Are you sure that’s true?

  • What’s your body telling you?

VE in SC

On 9 September 2018, Venus left Libra and entered Scorpio. The predictions were that romance would be more satisfying albeit, stormier. But then in mid-October, Venus dipped back into Libra again and from then until now, relationships should have been back on a more even keel.

Now, from 2 December 2018 until early 2019, we’re facing that steamy stuff again but contrary to what the astrology columns in magazines and newspapers would have you believe, we’ll all deal with it differently.

For most, passionate experiences and encounters may well be unforgettable but perhaps, not quite for same reasons.

Venus in Scorpio is where love and magic wed and when the magic is good, it can be healing for everyone. But when the magic is bad, passionate encounters could become nasty if not downright sadistic.

This is because in Scorpio, Venus doesn’t do anything in half-measures; she approaches everything that she wants – sex and money and gender politics – very seriously. At all costs, she intends to win her game.

One Scorpio friend told me that she’d die for her passions and I believe her. However, having a good dose of Gemini in my own natal, or birth chart, if I were to come up against an all-consuming passion such as my Scorpion friend fancies, I’d run in the opposite direction. The truth is that we all address our passions in different ways and with Venus in Scorpio, this could get messy because it’s inevitable that we’ll all not agree.

In order to come through this period in one piece, when it comes to passions, trust no one, not even yourself. Question everything, rationally.

How will you deal with your passions?