All these things shall love do unto you that you many know the secret of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.
Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
Venus is now in Pisces for the next month.
When she was in Aquarius, you were on notice that your beloved might (temporarily) give you the cold shoulder.
Now, you can expect him or her to be confused. This is because Pisces has two planetary rulers, Neptune and Jupiter, and together, this pair is the signature of the visionary who enjoys a foolhardy naivety about life.
The good news, and there always will be with Venus in Pisces because this is where she is exalted (i.e. doing well, indeed, thanks very much), is that however much disillusionment and disappointment comes in her wake, any resultant bitterness or resentment won’t last for long.
How do you suppose it will all work out?
What are the chances of success?
How do you suppose you can find out more about it?
Part of the reason for this is the psychological phenomena known as projection, an automatic process where the contents of your own unconscious is perceived to be in others.
For example, if you’re angry at someone but for a variety of reasons, can’t express it, you might ‘project’ your anger onto that other person and then be surprised when you end up the victim of his or her aggression.
There are typical places in your natal, or birth chart, that are ripe for projection, most notably planets in your 7th house (house of partnerships, intimate and business). For example, consider a woman with Venus (symbolizing that which she values) in her 7th house. It would not be unexpected to hear her say that she leaves important decisions to her husband because she’s unsure what she really wants.
The tell-tale signs of projection include strong and uncomfortable (or fearful) reactions to someone or something – an extra emotional charge that seems out of proportion in the situation. Such reactions may have a luminous or amorphous quality i.e. they just don’t make sense – rather like falling in love, which apparently itself is a projection.
Another problem with relationships is that people get to know the other’s ‘buttons’ and ‘press’ them at will. Equally, they can press these buttons unwittingly and be angry and confused with the reaction of their partner was not at all what they intended. Astrologically, we can zoom in on these buttons using what we call synastry that compares close aspects formed between your natal chart and that of another.
For example, if your Venus were to form a tight aspect to your partner’s Saturn, then every time you express your innate charm and grace, it would annoy him. You’d compensate by being even more charming and he’d up the ante with being cold and rejecting. Over time, this develops into a recognisable pattern that seems to take on a life of its own.
We can even create a brand new third chart, or composite chart, that reflects your relationship as if it were a separate entity unto itself. This is different than synastry (as discussed above) which looks at how each of you impact the other. Instead, the composite chart represents the relationship as a whole, giving insight into the dynamics upon which that relationship will function.
For example, with Moon/Uranus contacts in your composite chart, your relationship is likely to create more excitement than stability. With Moon/Saturn contacts, you’ll probably have trouble communicating with each other at a feeling level. But with Moon/Mars, strong feelings will come easier albeit with a double-edged effect. Moon/Mercury will make communications about your feelings easy, albeit in a detached and rational way. But if you have Moon/Pluto contacts, the sheer intensity of the bond between the two of you make often make it too ‘hot’ to handle.
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In Plato’s Symposium, we learn that humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head with two faces. But Zeus, most powerful of the Greek gods, feared the humans’ power and tore them asunder, condemning them to eternally search for the other half of themselves – their soul mate.
That’s as good as any explanation for the magical, mystical, and most importantly – fated – union you can feel in the presence of another. For many, it’s the most beautiful, moving, and transformative experience for which one could ever hope.
So why is it that – more likely than not – it will all end in tears?
Astrologically, the ‘soul mate’ phenomenon is inevitably bound up with Neptune – which moves in mysterious, illusive ways. Neptune is counter logical and doesn’t play by the rules. Neptune is of another world, luring us into pursuit of a glamorous dream that takes us to places we’d never otherwise willingly have gone. We all need some glamour in our lives. But when the dream is over you need to move on.
Does this mean you can never have a long-term relationship with your ‘soul mate’?
Of course not.
What it does mean is that you want to make it work, you’ll need to understand the dynamics in play and have a plan.
Do any of these sound familiar?
The sheer strength of the sexual pull between these two ensures trouble– Mars/Neptune.
Being at the heart of that intoxicating feeling of ‘being in love’, this aspect has provided poetic inspiration since the beginning of time – Venus/Neptune.
The dialogue between these two is poetic and inspired yet sadly usually ends in misunderstandings and quarrels – Mercury/Neptune.
This aspect involves a profound sense of shared religious and spiritual values that when it goes wrong (as it usually does), disillusionment follows – Jupiter/Neptune.
At the base of this aspect, is a feeling of stability, sympathy, and safety but as the bond cements, intolerable possessiveness sets in – Moon/Neptune.
Although this aspect has the greatest potential to provide a tangible sense of hope and faith, initially it is characterized by intense anger and emotional pain – Saturn/ Neptune.
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On 6 January, Venus leaves Scorpio for Sagittarius where she will remain until the beginning of February.
If during the last couple of months, your relationships seemed too hot to handle, you can expect the heavy mood to lift.
Now is the time to have some fun – smiles, giggles, jokes, and flirtation.
Yet, if you’re thinking of running away with your fabulous new love, you may want to think again. Sagittarius is not known for staying power. Indeed, with Venus in Sagittarius the name of the game is when the going gets rough, lovers get going. Nothing personal. That’s just the way that it is.
The key to enjoying this period is to remember that just right now, commitment is definitely not the ‘done thing’.
That will come later when Venus moves in Capricorn.
On 9 September 2018, Venus left Libra and entered Scorpio. The predictions were that romance would be more satisfying albeit, stormier. But then in mid-October, Venus dipped back into Libra again and from then until now, relationships should have been back on a more even keel.
Now, from 2 December 2018 until early 2019, we’re facing that steamy stuff again but contrary to what the astrology columns in magazines and newspapers would have you believe, we’ll all deal with it differently.
For most, passionate experiences and encounters may well be unforgettable but perhaps, not quite for same reasons.
Venus in Scorpio is where love and magic wed and when the magic is good, it can be healing for everyone. But when the magic is bad, passionate encounters could become nasty if not downright sadistic.
This is because in Scorpio, Venus doesn’t do anything in half-measures; she approaches everything that she wants – sex and money and gender politics – very seriously. At all costs, she intends to win her game.
One Scorpio friend told me that she’d die for her passions and I believe her. However, having a good dose of Gemini in my own natal, or birth chart, if I were to come up against an all-consuming passion such as my Scorpion friend fancies, I’d run in the opposite direction. The truth is that we all address our passions in different ways and with Venus in Scorpio, this could get messy because it’s inevitable that we’ll all not agree.
In order to come through this period in one piece, when it comes to passions, trust no one, not even yourself. Question everything, rationally.