Lunar Needs

This is the second of a series of blog posts designed to help you to understand how your astrological Moon drives the ebbs and tides of your everyday life as well as your most intimate relationships. This post is about some basic astrological symbolism involving the lunar needs.

AriesNeeds to be constantly ‘doing’ – preoccupied with finding a worthy challenge or other avenue to self-gratification – tendency to be pushy, impulsive – even reckless – when threatened, likely to be provocative and argumentative. Potential place of sanctuary – a sports stadium, battlefield, or boxing match.
LeoNeeds to be noticed, admired, and appreciated – preoccupied with one-upsmanship (“I can do it better than you can”) – tendency to be generous and loyal – the ‘life of the party’ – when threatened, can quickly become the quintessential ‘drama queen’. Potential place of sanctuary – a party, playground, or theatre.
SagittariusNeeds everything to be light and lively – preoccupied with travel and finding adventure – tendency to teach/preach and share ideas – gregarious – when threatened can become arrogant and haughty. Potential place of sanctuary – a university, church, airport, or courthouse.
GeminiNeeds constant stimulation (chaotic and curious) – preoccupied with drawing conclusions and making connections – tendency to be a ‘jack of all trades and master of none’ – scattered – when threatened, can become gossipy (even traitorous) and cynical. Potential place of sanctuary – a classroom, newsroom, or bookstore.
LibraNeeds to be pleasing and harmonious – preoccupied with attractive surroundings – tendency to redress imbalances – play ‘devil’s advocate’ – when threatened can be critical and judgemental – especially when there appears there is no way to be ‘liked’. Potential place of sanctuary – an art gallery, interior design centre, or beauty salon.
AquariusNeeds to learn and discover – preoccupied with what makes people tick – tendency to spout own views and beliefs as ‘the truth’ – especially when it comes to politics – when threatened, likely to become disruptive and/or seek an abrupt change of scenery. Potential place of sanctuary – convention hall, conference room, political rally.
TaurusNeeds to feel physically safe and comfortable – preoccupied with retaining control – tendency toward possessiveness – ‘what’s yours is mine but not vice versa’ – when threatened, can become vengeful especially if feeling betrayed. Potential place of sanctuary – a restaurant, farm, or massage parlour.
VirgoNeeds to feel useful and productive – preoccupied with health and well-being – tendency to feel nervous or ill-at-ease when everything is not ‘just so’ – when threatened, can become supersensitive and highly critical. Potential place of sanctuary – the workplace, health clinic, lab, employment agency.
CapricornNeeds structure and boundaries – preoccupied with clear-cut guidelines and rules – tendency to feel responsible and do his/her duty – when threatened, takes up the drawbridge and retreats behind the castle walls. Potential place of sanctuary – the corporate boardroom, top of a mountain, or in a walled (well-tended) garden.
CancerNeeds to feel emotionally connected with everyone – like a chameleon, instinctively blends in to his environment – tendency to take up role of caretaker – “Here, have my homemade chicken soup.’ When threatened, clams up and/or gets seriously annoyed. Potential place of sanctuary – home or museum.
ScorpioNeeds to keep a close watch on the situation – like a sharp-eyed eagle, always on guard – tendency not to reveal underlying motivations but anxious to fully comprehend those of others – when threatened, can provoke ‘crisis’ as smokescreen. Potential place of sanctuary – a trauma centre, operating theatre, or brothel.
PiscesNeeds to be in a sympathetic, understanding environment – preoccupied with helping others – tendency to fantasize and day dream – when threatened, melts down and/or disappears. Potential place of sanctuary – rest home, bar, or spiritual retreat.

Healing Fictions in Your Most Intimate Relationships

This is the first of a series of blog posts designed to help you to understand how your astrological Moon drives the ebbs and tides of your everyday life as well as your most intimate relationships. This post is about healing fictions.

Each and every ‘story’ that you relate to self and others is a ‘fiction’ – at least it is a ‘fiction’ in the sense that it is your personal interpretation of your experience of an external event or series of events which may or may not correspond to the interpretation of the same event(s) by others.

These stories or fictions are not only central to life but they are also essential to our sense of ‘self’

According to James Hillman, noted Jungian psychologist and author of the acclaimed (and amazingly accessible) book Healing Fiction, coming to grips with this process of ‘fiction-making’ is healing. Not only does it promote self-acceptance but also self-understanding. This in turn gives you the chance to assert conscious control over your affairs especially in respect of your most intimate relationships.

Astrologically, your Moon is the key to this process

In the Neoplatonist cosmos, the Moon stands at the gateway of your psyche and the material world. Thus your Moon not only mediates between events, experiences, and the meaning that you ascribe to them, but it also gives you a wealth of information about the archetypes, symbols, and metaphors that inform your (inner) world.

For example, my Moon is in Gemini. My stories – or ‘fictions’ – must be light and lively. It’s only to be expected that I will embellish and embroider the facts to make it so. If there were to be dark and/or seriously scary bits,  I’ll be obliged to ignore them. It’s a given that to the extent difficult emotions are involved, I’ll avoid them like the plague.

  • However, if my Moon were in Scorpio, the scary bits and difficult emotions would be just my cup of tea; they would probably even dominate my story.
  • If my Moon were in Capricorn, my story could take on a paternalistic, moralizing tone – don’t do that again, else bad things will happen.
  • With Moon in Pisces, my story would center on my (confused) emotional response to whatever has happened.
  • But with Moon in Leo my story would center on what most flatters me.  
  • With Moon in Aquarius, my story would center around talking about how I’m feeling about something in order to avoid actually feeling.
  • If my Moon were in Aries, I’d focus on the action of who did what to whom especially when it was the result of someone’s loss of temper.
  • With Moon in Taurus, I might focus my story on how things felt to my touch and/or tasted and how this contributed (or not) to the overall experience.
  • But with Moon in Virgo, I might focus on what went wrong and how, in the future, it could be fixed.
  • If my Moon were in Cancer, I might focus on how the overall experience either strengthened or weakened my emotional connection with others.
  • However, if my Moon were in Sagittarius, I’d probably focus on the importance of what I’ve personally learned from the experience.
  • Finally, if my Moon were in Libra, I might focus on how the experience was fair (or not) to those involved.

Not only does your Moon’s sign effect your fiction-making, but also its house placement

My Moon is in the 12th house. When I sense rejection or criticism, I clam up and slip away. By contrast, if my Moon were in the 1st house, I would be so self-focused  that I wouldn’t even care if you were listening; my overwhelming need is to dominate the situation.

Finally, the aspects your Moon makes to other planets in your chart necessarily also colour your perception. For example, I have Moon square (hard aspect) to Mars. My fiction-making is often peppered with anecdotes belying my anger and frustration. Everything that I experience isn’t quite right’ – if only, if only? But if my Moon were, say, in an easy aspect (trine or sextile) with Jupiter, my story would be warmly optimistic; my default perception is that all is ‘right with the world’. But if my Moon were in a difficult aspect (square or opposition) to Jupiter, my story would be wildly unrealistic; my default perception would be that when it comes to luck, I always draw the short straw.

Now, after paying close attention to my own stories, I’m more aware of how -without conscious intervention – I’m most likely to experience any event, especially in regards to my most intimate relationships.

Say, for example, that I have an argument with my husband

With my Gemini Moon, I will automatically avoid difficult emotions. With his Scorpio Moon, my husband will automatically interpret this as purposefully ignoring his feelings. The moment he expresses criticism in this regard, I will clam up and slip away. With his Moon in his 5th house, my husband might well take pleasure in this result. This leaves me to fuss and fume (anger/frustration) in private.

But if I can accept that regardless of how I’d like to perceive the event, difficult emotions are integral and inevitable. Now, at least I am able to acknowledge such emotions exist thus allowing my husband to feel that at last, he’s been heard re: his feelings. Hopefully, this will circumvent the rest of what was once an inevitable and ever-repeating cycle.

How best can you use your stories to improve your world and relationship?

Spend some time analyzing your stories

  • Notice which character you adopt as your narrator of the story? For example, do you tell the story through your own eyes & ears or instead through the eyes & ears of someone else involved in the event/experience?
  • Notice whether you are the subject or the object of the story. For example do you say ‘I did XYZ to him’ or instead, ‘he did ABC to me’?
  • Do you sound enthusiastic when you tell the story or are you more subdued or even unhappy?
  • Which verb tense do you choose to use? For example, is everything in the past tense or do you also introduce the future tense? ‘My boyfriend dumped me but I will get even.” Maybe the story remains 100% in the present tense – ‘My boyfriends dumps me and then I say…”
  • What important themes or motifs recur or are missing from your stories? For example, do you constantly throw in certain words but not others like failure, success, temptation, resistance or luck?
  • What labels recur (good, bad, nasty, nice) and to whom or what do they attach?

Consider how best to rewrite the story/fiction so that it serves you better both now and in the future

Interestingly, there’s lots of leeway here because although story line (plot) must move forward (cause and effect) in time, narrative does not. You can start at the end of your story and how you’d have liked it to end and work backwards in time like with a typical murder mystery where we start out knowing who got killed and maybe even who did it but we don’t know all the essential ‘why’ and ‘how’ until we track back though the crucial events from beginning to end. Your goal is to open up space for a new and different story to develop – giving yourself full opportunity to fill in the gaps and ambiguities or flesh our and develop certain characters and/or motives.

Dignities & Debilities of Mars & Venus

Each planet in your chart has a job to do but some planets are better placed than others to do it (albeit not always without some risk).

Consider that Aries is the zodiac sign associated with confidence, courage, bravery, assertion, and competition. Since the job or planetary purpose of Mars is to compete and win, it’s not difficult to see how, in Aries, Mars is well-placed to achieve his aims.

But in Libra, where Mars is considered to be in detriment (i.e. struggling), he might not fare so well. In Aries, Mars was free to disregard the needs and feelings of others when in pursuit of his goals. But in Libra, the needs and feelings of others are shoved in his face.

This is because Libra is associated with achieving balance and harmony, especially in romantic relationships. As most marriage counselors would agreed, typical Libra traits like diplomacy, tact, and a willingness to compromise are useful to further relationships. Yet compromise (much less tact and diplomacy) does not come easily to Mars. Remember how Mars is hard-wired to win by any and all means? How on earth could that ever play out well in Libra?

Equally, Venus in Aries (the zodiac sign where she is in detriment), will struggle. Imagine how difficult it might be to achieve harmonious relationships through the guise of egotistically fueled assertion and constant competition?

For an example how this might play out, consider the Greek myth about Jason (typical Aries) and the Argonauts and the disaster wrought in his marital relationship with Medea.

By contrast, Venus is very happy in Libra, the sign opposite Aries and one of the two zodiac signs where she is considered in dignity.

The planetary purpose of Venus is to both attract and be attracted ‘the other’, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. In this regard, a willing to compromise is clearly a bonus. Yet all too easily compromise can turn into paralyzing indecision.

For an example how this may play out, consider the Greek myth, The Judgement of Paris.

Venus also does well in Taurus, the other zodiac sign in which she is in dignity. Like Libra, Taurus is characterized by romantic relationships albeit of more earthy and sensuous nature. Taurus adds to the mix her famous loyalty and dependability; such traits usually considered to promote harmonious relationships. Yet when it comes to the pursuit of pleasure, another important of job for Venus, things can get quickly out of control in Taurus.

For an example of how this might play out, consider the Greek myth about the wife of King Minos and her dalliance with the Minotaur.

The sign opposite Taurus is Scorpio, where Venus is in her detriment. Although like Taurus, Scorpio is also loyal, Scorpio is also notorious for being distrustful and suspicious, traits not usually associated with happy relationships. Like Aries, Scorpio is also ruled by the planet, Mars. This means that the relationships of Venus in Scorpio are in many respects like those of Venus in Aries – fraught with competition. Add to that the propensity to be jealous, hold grudges, and seek revenge, and it’s not difficult to see how Venus in Scorpio may not enjoy same quality of relationship as might Venus in Taurus .

Not all is lost, however.

As noted earlier, another key purposes of Venus is to full her desire for sensuous pleasures. In Scorpio, sexuality is not taken lightly are passion and intensity are the order of the day. The problem comes when in the pursuit of pleasure societal taboos are ignore and broken. This is always a risk with Venus in Scorpio.

For an example of this how this might play out, consider Greek myth about Medusa.

The Gentle Art of Persuasion

For success in any meeting or conversation, the following four steps are essential:

  1. Build rapport – the easiest way is to assume you have it already. Imagine the person in front of you is a dear old friend. The subtle changes in your approach will soon set them comfortably at ease.
  2. Know your desired outcome – be precise about what behaviour you want from the other by the end of the meeting/conversation and ensure everything said & done is aimed at bringing them to that result.
  3. Deliver a personalised hook:
    • Aries – appeal to his need to take action now.
    • Taurus – appeal to her need for simple, practical solutions.
    • Gemini – appeal to his natural curiosity.
    • Cancer – appeal to her need to feel safe & secure.
    • Leo – appeal to his need to take centre stage.
    • Virgo – appeal to her need to get it done right.
    • Libra – appeal to his need to maintain harmony.
    • Scorpio – appeal to her need to get to the bottom of things.
    • Sagittarius – appeal to his need for freedom and adventure.
    • Capricorn – appeal to her need to take responsibility and earn respect.
    • Aquarius – appeal to his need to challenge the status quo.
    • Pisces – appeal to her need to help someone.
  4. Choose your words carefully:
    • Develop ‘yes’ sets – get them on a roll with answering a series of simple questions in the affirmative and chances are they’ll keep on rolling with the same.
    • Anticipation Loops – keep them paying close attention by delivering partial explanations with a promise to later, explain in more detail.
    • Agreement Frames – everyone feels better when others agree with them so meet objections with a smile and the following phrase –  ‘I agree with you and (not but) I add
    • Awareness patterns – innocuous little words like NOTICE, REALISE, EXPERIENCE, and SEE are fantastic for slipping in ideas under the radar. For example, ‘I’m certain that you realise that XYZ happened and that means ABC.’ If they question anything, it’s more likely to be (1) whether they did realise XYZ had happened or (2) whether or not in actual fact, XYZ as portrayed is true. This leaves them much more likely to accept, as a given, whatever comes next, your real point – i.e. ABC.

The astrology of soul-mates/Why and how it all goes wrong

In Plato’s Symposium, we learn that humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head with two faces.  But Zeus, most powerful of the Greek gods, feared the humans’ power and tore them asunder, condemning them to eternally search for the other half of themselves – their soul mate.

That’s as good as any explanation for the magical, mystical, and most importantly – fated – union you can feel in the presence of another.   For many, it’s the most beautiful, moving, and transformative experience for which one could ever hope.   I’ve had it.  Have you?

So why is it that – more likely than not – it all ends in tears?

Astrologically, the ‘soul mate’ phenomenon is inevitably bound up with Neptune, which moves in mysterious, illusive ways.  Neptune is counter logical. Neptune doesn’t play by the rules.  Belonging to another world, Neptune lures us into pursuit of a glamorous dream that takes us to places we’d never otherwise willingly have gone.

We all need some glamour in our lives.  But when the dream is over you’ll need to move on.

Does this mean you can never have a long-term relationship with your Neptunian ‘soul mate’? 

Of course not.

But what it does mean is that unless your soul mate relationship has more holding it together than Neptune contacts, when reality shatters your rose-coloured glasses, either or both of you will be sneaking out the backdoor with a grin.

‘Soul-mate’ themes in brief

  • Neptune/Moon – the Moon person provides stability that makes the Neptune person feel safe, and so he begins to believe the Moon will always be there for him.  Initially the Moon responds positively to Neptune’s needs and does all she can to reassure him.  But as the bonds grow stronger, the Moon becomes progressively more possessive and feeling overwhelmed, Neptune quietly slips away.
  • Neptune/Mercury – Neptune views Mercury as a clever companion.   Often their dialogue is both poetic and inspired.  Yet both Neptune and Mercury can be shameless liars and when they start down that path, it’s all downhill from there.  Neptune uses her mirroring powers to please and flatter at all costs.  For Mercury (governed by the god of tricksters and thieves), the truth is always relative.   In the end quarrels and misunderstandings are inevitable yet it’s what each of you do next that most matters.
  • Neptune/Venus – this contact has provided inspiration for poetry and fiction from the beginning of time; inevitably it involves the pain of illicit (and often unfilled) desire.   While Neptune fantasizes about the physical consummation of a mystical love, Venus waits impatiently for Neptune to take action.  The problem is that Venus wants to be loved through (and for) her body while what Neptune really loves is Venus’ soul.  This aspect reflects the intoxicating feeling of ‘being in love’.  Yet more often than not, it produces a broken heart.
  • Neptune/Mars – the sheer strength of the erotic pull between these two ensures trouble.  Neptune sees Mars as her invincible champion– tough, potent, decisive, and ready for battle.   In turn, Mars feels fulfilled with a worthy cause for which to fight.  Yet if Neptune can’t acknowledge her dependency on Mars, she’ll undermine him so as to ensure he doesn’t go off crusading for someone else.  Often this results in the classic ‘not tonight but maybe tomorrow’ script where Mars is kept eternally waiting.  On-going frustration may draw cruelty and violence from Mars.  The less Neptune understands her own capacity for aggression, the darker their relationship becomes.
  • Neptune/Jupiter – involves a profound sense of shared spirituality. Jupiter’s quest for meaning and optimistic vision provides Neptune a solid hook for her own, often inarticulate, deep yearnings.  Yet because both Jupiter and Neptune share a taste for the boundless, this aspect can end up with the blind leading the blind. Eventually Jupiter cajoles Neptune into some folly into which Neptune happily follows but when it all goes wrong (as it usually does), disillusionment inevitably follows.
  • Neptune/Saturn – involves a meeting of archetypal opposites.  Saturn (the strong, worldly, paternal figure) overtly builds strong foundation which Neptune (elusive, vulnerable, and distinctly of another world) subtly undermines.  When Saturn-Neptune aspects go wrong, they go very wrong. They can generate an intensity of anger and need to inflict emotional pain that becomes unbearable for both parties.  However if handled with care (and maturity), this aspect has the greatest potential for healing. 

No longer can we ignore …

A month ago, I predicted that the UK General Election would see the then conservative government out of power in what would be a surprise election result.

The surprise part was right but the predicted result was wrong.

The Tories swept back into power in the biggest landslide victory they’d enjoyed in decades. I will admit that I got it wrong because although the proverbial writing was clearly on the wall, like so many I dearly wished to ignore it.

Now we will be forced to read more carefully this writing on the wall as the Saturn/Pluto conjunction in Capricorn, undoubtedly the most important planetary configuration of the year – if not the new decade and beyond – kicks off in earnest.

If in doubt of how seriously this is being taken in astrological circles, Google “Saturn Pluto Conjunction 2020” – I got about 470,000 results in .33 seconds.

The Saturn/Pluto cycle is one of crisis and contraction.

It squeezes us until that which has been (personally and/or culturally) repressed oozes out and comes to the surface. The expected result is one of fear and loathing. Bad stuff happens as we collectively project this fear on to someone or something – a scapegoat who often seems, strangely, ready-made for the purpose.

For example, WWI commenced on the Saturn/Pluto conjunction in Cancer in 1914.

To understand how this works across the Capricorn/Cancer axis, first remember that Capricorn is ruled by Saturn and Cancer by the Moon. Thus we can expect the cold, hard reality of worldly events (Saturn) to seriously disrupt our domestic and emotional security (Moon).

We can also expect, as the fear rises and we look for someone to ‘control’ it for us, conservative governments and their policies to rise in power.

It starts with the lunar eclipse early this evening (GMT).

With every eclipse something ends and something begins but whilst solar eclipses tend to offer new opportunities, lunar eclipses tend to bring final endings. Thus the status quo to which we’ve adapted exists no longer and as a consequence, , like it or not, we are forced to take action.

Because in this eclipse the Moon is in Cancer, the sign that it rules, this will necessarily impact out our sense of emotional well-being. Then two days later, on the 12th of January, we will experience a seriously powerful planetary line-up in Capricorn (Saturn/Pluto/Sun/Mercury/Jupiter.

Expect nothing less than the total and utter structural (Saturn) collapse and upheaval – (Pluto) that will play heavy on our minds (Mercury). Because the Sun is involved as well, we can expect this crisis to bring CLARITY regarding some heretofore hidden TRUTH – a sober AWAKENING – as to the reality of some situation we’d been refusing to face.

Although it is unlikely that all will become apparent on the actual day of this conjunction, as we look back on events that unfold over the next 12 months, we’ll begin to see this seeding time for what it was.

This transit will also impact each of us individually – although those with natal planets or other key points in their chart between 20-25 degrees cardinal signs (Libra, Cancer, Capricorn, and Aries) will feel it more than others.

Stay tuned as later posts will address how this may all play out for you.

At the Heart of the Sun

At this time of the year, it’s tempting to make grand announcements regarding intentions for the coming year. It’s as if simply by sharing them, we’re ensuring that they will enfold exactly as planned.

Usually, such strategy is a good one. But this year, it would be a grave mistake.

This is because two days ago the planet Jupiter aligned perfectly with the heart of the Sun, in Capricorn.

Classical astrologers know this moment as Cazimi – when Jupiter is absorbed and greatly empowered by the Sun. Sounds fabulous and it is! Imagine the power surge standing at the very center, the essence of all earthly things. Yet because in Capricorn, Jupiter is in ‘fall’, this also a time of great danger. When a planet is in fall, all that has been gained can easily be lost and the higher one has climbed, the farther her fall.

Thus the wise woman will be modest in announcing her expectations for the coming year. She understands now is not the time to draw attention to herself, to flaunt her skills and gifts. She remembers that, sadly, everyone has enemies and that she is no exception to the rule. She also remembers that in times of danger, it is inadvisable to draw out one’s enemies.

Instead the wise woman will keep her light hidden, her head down. Rather than making grand stands, she will remain quietly committed to accomplishing her goal.

the time of your life…

What would you give to be able paint an accurate picture of the quality of time in your life right now?

One of the best ways to do just that uses the ancient classical technique known as Directing by Triplicity.

The idea is to look at the main luminary in your chart and it’s three classical triplicity rules (by element) and examine their ‘condition’ in your chart.

The 1st triplicity ruler governs the first 1/3 of your life, the 2nd triplicity ruler governs the second 1/3 of your life and of course the 3rd triplicity ruler governs the final 1/3 of your life. There are no hard and fast rules regarding when one moves from one life phase to another but generally the first transition occurs around aged 30 years and the last transition about aged 60 years.

In my chart, the main luminary is the Moon because I was born at night. My Moon is in Gemini, and so the triplicity rulers (of air) are Mercury, Saturn, and Jupiter (in that order).

As I’m now in the final 1/3 of my life, Jupiter is running the show. In my chart, Jupiter is also in Gemini (in detriment) in my 12th house (cadent).

To find out more about what this means for me, I consult the appropriate ancient texts, including the Liber Hermetis, which was translated from Latin into English by Robert Zoller (Project Hindsight):

  • My Jupiter is considered to be in the ‘boundlessness’ of the Moon and hence lacking the necessary structure to build ‘benefits’ of a lasting nature.
  • This Jupiter is at its possible best when marching to the beat of a different ‘drum beat’ – i.e. pursing that which is alternative, not mainstream.
  • It is likely that, during this time in my life, I will make my livelihood from ‘words, ‘numbers’ and even ‘sorceries’. Likewise, I may work ‘with celestial things’ and become a ‘prophet of the future’.
  • Beware, however, because my Jupiter is in the ‘terms’ of Saturn, whatever I’ve gained in the past could be now lost.

Much of this sounds more than plausible, especially now that, after 35 plus years as an international tax lawyer, I’m working as an astrological coach and as much as I love astrology and coaching, the transition has not been easy.

The good news is that however debilitated my Jupiter might be, it does ‘plug into the angles’ of my chart and has real possibility for me to accomplish my goals if, of course, I can find the necessary structure. Sadly, this will not be easy. Although my Jupiter and Saturn (symbolising structure) are ‘friends’ (they are in a helpful trine aspect to each other and in mutual reception by face and/or term ), Saturn benefits more from this relationship than does Jupiter (i.e. mutual reception negated by cadency).

Having recently retired from the corporate world of imposed structure, I do find it difficult creating the ‘structure’ necessary to underpin a successful astrological coaching practice. Luckily I’ve realised this and to that end am now working with coaches to help me. Rule number one when it comes to being a success – never hesitate to get help where necessary.

Finally, my Jupiter in Gemini is ruled by Mercury and as noted earlier, my Mercury has worked well for me in the past. Another ancient technique called Firdaria, suggests that on another personal front, my Mercury is really coming into its own. As with Saturn, my Jupiter is friends with Mercury (helpful trine again) and although Jupiter gets the short-end of the stick in this friendship, at least Mercury is empowered by the friendship (in the ‘terms’ of Jupiter) and so writing, (Mercury-ruled) is definitely going to be my thing!

If you’d like to learn more about how this technique can work for you, I’ve got a special offer on from now until 31 January 2020 – if you’re game, we can get started tomorrow!

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When to call your astrologer…

… and what to ask.

First and foremost, astrology is meant to help you to put your mind at ease, to understand how the turning wheel of world fortune relates to you.

For example, when you’re going through a tough time, it’s healing to be able to mark the day in your calendar when it should all be over. Equally, there are times when doors in our lives open easily and times that they remain stubbornly shut. Astrology helps you to know in advance when is the best time to launch your plans as well as advising when they remain only half-baked.


Always have an advance idea of what you want to achieve in your astrology reading. Pure speculation is never helpful and can even be dangerous. Likewise, if you have a fixed outcome in mind as to the result of the reading, don’t expect astrology to simply confirm your plans. If you’re not prepared, at least in part, to think differently as the result of a reading, then don’t book it.

There are basically two types of readings; general and topical.

GENERAL READINGS – sketch out the narrative arc of the story that is your life. Imagine how much better you will function when you have a good understanding of who you are and what you want?

But as with any sketch, the devil is in the detail and this is where mixing astrology and coaching techniques comes into its own. There’s no sense walking away from the reading filled with fabulous information that you’ve no idea how to use.

  • Psychological astrology informs your most prominent personality traits, the way that you’re most likely to see and experience the world. With this, you can walk away from a 90-minute astrology session having learned more about yourself than you might in years of therapy. Coaching helps you decide what to do with what you’ve learned.
  • Before moving forward, it’s sometimes useful to look backwards. For example, before remarrying you might want to explore reasons why your first marriage failed. Equally, you might benefit from understanding why during a particular time in your life you flourished more than at other times or why you keep repeating the same ‘mistake’ time and time again.
  • Themes tend to repeat especially when they’ve not yet been adequately dealt with.  For those believing in reincarnation, it’s not hard to see how such themes carry through multiple lifetimes. For the historians and/or geneaologists, it’s not difficult to see how these themes carry on along family lines. And how about the mysterious mix of ideas, hopes, and dreams that you share with others of your generation? What’s that all about?
  • Have you ever wondered why you behave differently with some people than with others? Do some people know just which buttons to push whilst others seem to have no idea? Why does one person respond to your entreaties whilst another ignores them? Why are you to one person and not another? Relationship astrology answers these questions and more.

TOPICAL READINGS – consist of a question or series of questions usually relating to an important decision that you’ll soon take. Naturally the more you know about the topic in question, the more informed will be your decision making.

  • Astrology mixed with coaching helps you to clarify the question and your options as well as to evaluate how, for each of those options, events are most likely to unfold.
  • Horary astrology even allows for yes and no questions – i.e. should I take this job? But please keep in mind that although astrology can provide you with all sort of insight, it can never make the decision for you.

Chapter ONE:

On 26th December at 5:18 AM GMT, we will enjoy the new Moon in Capricorn and with it, arguably, the biggest planetary aspect of the month, a powerful solar eclipse.

There’s a huge line-up of planetary energy in Capricorn – so basically, there is no place to hide.

You should – no, you will – do something with this energy although some (with planets or angles 2-6 degrees in the cardinal signs – i.e. Libra, Cancer, Aries, and Capricorn) folks will feel this more than others.

This is not so much a dark energy as it is something to be taken seriously – not the least because you now have an honest opportunity to make a new beginning – start a brand-new chapter – in some important aspect of your life.

This must be approached in a realistic, grounded manner, taking into consideration everything you’ve learned up to this point about life. Yet still you’ll be feeling excited – enthusiastic – about what’s opening up for you  – and it is good stuff because you’re going to make it so. It’s also going to be a long-hard slog to the realization of this new opportunity – this new project – this new chapter in your life – so prepare to be persistent and patient and do whatever it takes!

In this regard, you should consider:

  • Committing publicly to the project, telling your family and friends as much as possible about your plans;
  • Creating a plan of action and start actioning the points – ticking them off one-by-one – taking baby steps at first until the ball gets really rolling;
  • Recruiting support, be it a coach or a colleague or even a friend who understands your goals;
  • Establishing milestones – book appointments with yourself in advance to review how far you’ve come and how far you have yet, to go and a word of advice – don’t cancel these appointments – even if you’ve got nothing to report to yourself, be honest about that and use the time to think about how you will make it different next time.